Kingdom Minded-Man

Kingdom Minded

When I look at photos of men from my grandfather’s and even my dad’s generation, I can see a sense of purpose in the eyes of those men. Yet when I look at men today, I often don’t sense that kind of steely focus. Instead, I see dudes who are just sort of drifting along whichever way life pulls them. I’ve heard a lot of men my age complain of a sense of shiftlessness. They don’t have the drive, purpose, and ambition that our forbearers had, and they feel adrift.

And this isn’t some sort of cranky old man observation about “kids these days.” Several books and articles by sociologists back up these observations. There are numerous factors why men are just sort of drifting by today. Changes in the economy and societal shifts in regards to gender are definitely two major factors. But, let’s be honest. There’s not much a man, let alone a man stuck in neutral, can do about these things. But there is something that we all have the power to control: our core values.

When you don’t know or you haven’t clearly defined your values, you end up drifting along in life. Instead of basing your decisions on an internal compass, you make choices based on circumstances and social pressures. You end up trying to fulfill other people’s expectations instead of your own. And before you know it, life has passed you by and you haven’t even started to live. Trying to be someone else and living without core values is exhausting and leaves you feeling empty and shiftless. Conversely, living a life in line with your core values brings purpose, direction, happiness, and wholeness.

A man’s core values are determined by whom he chooses to follow, where he gets his orders from and what he chooses to make as the authority in his life. Kingdom Minded men derive their core values from the Word of God because they’ve made the Bible final authority in their lives.

That was the day I became a man. Turning twenty-one hadn’t done it. A college degree hadn’t done it. Even marriage hadn’t made me a man. Nor having a child. But when I decided to follow Christ without reservation, I became a man. A true man’s man is a godly man.

As David’s time to die drew near, he charged Solomon his son, saying, “I am going the way of all the earth. Be strong, therefore, and show yourself a man. And keep the charge of the LORD your God, to walk in His ways, to keep His statutes, His commandments, His ordinances, and His testimonies, according to what is written in the law of Moses, that you may succeed in all that you do and wherever you turn.” (I Kings 2:1-3)

David was preparing his son for true manhood: Kingdom Minded Manhood. Perhaps you have a vague idea about what you value. But if you haven’t clearly defined your values, you can end up making choices that conflict with them. And when your actions conflict with your values, the result is unhappiness and frustration.

I’ve noticed that when I take the time to really think and meditate upon the Word of God, it helps me to determine what I value as a man. When I write those things down, I’m more likely to have the courage and confidence to make choices based on those values. There’s something about actually writing down your values that makes you more committed to living them.

When you’re sure of your core values, making decisions becomes much simpler. When faced with a choice, you simply ask yourself, “Does this action align with my values?” If it does, you do it. If it doesn’t, you don’t. Instead of fretting over what’s the best thing to do, and standing shilly-shally in times of crisis, you simply let your internal compass guide you.

In order to become a Kingdom Minded Man you must clearly define, and write down your core values. Follow these steps:

  1. Get nice and relaxed. Go to a quiet room and sit in a big comfy chair.
  1. Have the proper tools. Get a bible, a concordance, any other appropriate study tools, paper and pen. Write on something you won’t accidentally throw away and that will last for many years to come.
  1. Ask yourself this question: “What do the scriptures reveal to me about the values and character of men in the bible? Then search the scriptures and let the pages of the bible open up to you.
  1. Write down whatever comes to you. When you have a moment of insight about what’s important to you, write it down. Just do a total brain dump.
  1. If you have more than five values, eliminate some. Think hard about what you truly value in life. Put a star by the values you’re sure about. Then eliminate the other. Keep pitting the survivors against each other until you’re down to 5.
  1. Prioritize. Once you whittle your list to five core values, prioritize them in order from most important to least important.

If you’re having trouble getting started, I’ve provided a list of values that you might consider. The list isn’t exhaustive; there are literally hundreds of values you could have.

  • Self Control
  • Discipline
  • Education
  • Faith
  • Family
  • Finance Security
  • Forgiveness
  • Fun
  • God
  • Growth
  • Happiness
  • Health
  • Hope
  • Honesty
  • Integrity
  • Kindness
  • Knowledge
  • Marriage
  • Peace of mind
  • Power
  • Service
  • Spirituality
  • Strength
  • Success
  • Truth
  • Wisdom

Write your core values in the space provided below and revisit them now and then to remind yourself what’s truly important to you:

  1. ___________________________________________________
  2. ___________________________________________________
  3. ___________________________________________________
  4. ___________________________________________________
  5. ___________________________________________________

Once complete, live the life that God has ordained for you as a Kingdom Minded Man.

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